tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16761020.post2840864232612873112..comments2023-10-20T21:52:36.752+05:30Comments on Cross Connections: Couples DO consciously uncoupleFarzana Verseyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06891229615361937135noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16761020.post-85627388915804804742014-03-31T14:12:08.252+05:302014-03-31T14:12:08.252+05:30The former credentials I spoke of do not cease to ...The former credentials I spoke of do not cease to exist; they merely become different. <br /><br />Incidentally, after all the titters, some commentators are now trying to understand "conscious uncoupling" is a broader way. <br /><br />Take this:<br /><br />{Such sentiments are at the root of "conscious uncoupling": it's all about personal growth and expressing love for the process that got you there.<br /><br />"A conscious uncoupling," Sadeghi and Sami explain, "is the ability to understand that every irritation and argument was a signal to look inside ourselves and identify a negative internal object that needed healing … Conscious uncoupling brings wholeness to the spirits of both people who choose to recognise each other as their teacher."}<br /><br />http://www.theguardian.com/film/2014/mar/29/paltrow-martin-conscious-uncoupling-gurusFVnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16761020.post-8710074795299911652014-03-28T19:24:54.333+05:302014-03-28T19:24:54.333+05:30" But, many are stuck in a situation where th..." But, many are stuck in a situation where they are appreciated only because of their former credentials. And they delude themselves. "<br /><br />FV, And when one doesn't have any credentials to speak of, other than making a choice and trying to make it all work, then there is point at which the personal cost of losing yourself in order to gain something that may or may not exist, or may just be a matter of delusion/fooling oneself, so then one has to make some hard choices down the spiral staircase of self-doubt, and (as you say) the view keeps changing like that picture that changes depending on the angle that you look at it. <br /><br /> Finally, you just take all the snapshots in your mind's eye and throw it in the corner of the mind's attic in order to become functional, at the very least. Anything more is a bonus, really.void *Al {return NULL;}noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16761020.post-44716219493669899502014-03-28T19:12:20.227+05:302014-03-28T19:12:20.227+05:30Al:
Nostalgia has its moments. But, many are stuc...Al:<br /><br />Nostalgia has its moments. But, many are stuck in a situation where they are appreciated only because of their former credentials. Ans they delude themselves. <br /><br />There are indeed many ways one could deal with situations, but with emotions the perception of the situation too alters, often without respite to adjust to it. FVnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16761020.post-33198236364513293452014-03-28T04:57:25.336+05:302014-03-28T04:57:25.336+05:30FV:"It is holistic and pure to not be stuck i...FV:"It is holistic and pure to not be stuck in a groove of a fake smile and the warmth of nostalgia for what you were when you are."<br /><br />Hi FV, Beautifully expressed. Nostalgia and the past can become oppressive to the point of choking what you are or want to be. On hindsight, one wishes one could have handled all this better in 20 different ways, but just say no coulda,shoulda,wouldas. Best one can do is do the right thing whatever the "cost".<br /><br />Hard enough to deal with all this without children involved, like with Gwyneth. The judgemental bilge by that stupid journalist is so...well, words fail me, so I will go with "yuk". <br />void *Al() {}noreply@blogger.com