tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16761020.post6997915714069660104..comments2023-10-20T21:52:36.752+05:30Comments on Cross Connections: Ask the vexpert - 25Farzana Verseyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06891229615361937135noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16761020.post-42029861700915951792011-05-02T18:15:19.458+05:302011-05-02T18:15:19.458+05:30Jitu:
When I started this series it was essential...Jitu:<br /><br />When I started this series it was essentially to take a lighthearted look at both the queries and the replies. I am amazed at how BOTH come across. <br /><br />Indeed, it is partly a problem with orthodox societies, but also the methods of learning are usually crass. So, it is natural that a person might get put off. There is also peer group ideas of what is right. <br /><br />Thanks for your enlightening comment.FVnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16761020.post-39824149441894398782011-05-01T09:42:44.310+05:302011-05-01T09:42:44.310+05:30'Kolpophobia'is the term for this state of...'Kolpophobia'is the term for this state of weak-mind. This is nearer to a phobia for amputated/crushed organs, but in later, person feels safe that he can avoid the scene. Here his mind is disturbed by the knowing that the act he finds giving extreme pleasure is attached with the organ appeared weird [ to one's standard belief[.This happens with a person raised in very rigid orthodox family where sex talk and nudity is a taboo. Preexisting ideas of the beauty and perfection causes it.What is beauty after all? Nothing but what your mind likes or judges’ for. Experts solution is baseless.<br /> <br />"You can start by looking at pictures of a vagina every day and also when you masturbate. After you are married, you won’t be able to go without seeing it"<br /><br />First it is not an 'aversion' but lack of knowledge and prejudice. One is committing crime by stopping this person from marrying by giving such kind of fake married life ideas. At 26 he is bachelor and have no one to guide but a glossy magazine. His experience may be with some sex-worker in some illness or improper hygiene condition and that too in a fearful condition of red-light area cubical. I may be wrong but when he will find a loving partner some day, he will certainly love her body in total. I remember here a scene [however not related much here]of 'SAAT khoon maaf' where husband with a amputated leg caresses the wife's face. I also wonder how many Indian men/husbands know the anatomy and appearance of female organ.<br /> Thanks for posting unspeakable otherwise.jiturajgorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17357330819451319528noreply@blogger.com