Much as I detest crass ambitiousness – whether it be in the professional sphere, or the one-upmanship of social interactions, not to speak about the more damaging one of close personal relationships – I find some kinds of politically correct and syrupy assertions to the contrary examples of stepping on toes. They convey that by not doing so, someone will benefit from the munificence. It gives them a higher place to function from.
When this becomes cultural, it results in supremacist ideology. A slightly different view is expressed thus:
“Politeness is organized indifference.”
― Paul Valéry
The idea behind much indifference is also supremacist – it can afford to ignore others by faking concern or shielding real intent.