Leave the guys alone...

People sit in an auditorium watching a wicked play. The jokes are vulgar; there is talk about the female anatomy and sex. What makes this one different? It is restricted to men only.

The reaction is that it is sexist. It is not. The director has not tried to hide intent nor the fact that “‘Only for adult men’ is my USP. It has worked. It is the first time in India, rather in the world, that such a tagline has been used”. Has it caused consternation because the characters are the regular sort?

We have shows for ladies only, be it for movies, plays or other cultural activities. Do women accompany their partners or male friends to dance bars, where men go to enjoy a few drinks and ogle at the dancers? How many women attend tamasha shows (a rustic and sensual dance performance loaded with innuendo) even in the villages where it is a staple form of entertainment?

How, then, can the playwright-director-producer Ashok Patole be put in the dock for “gender segregation” for restricting entry to ‘Ek Chavat Sandhyakaal’ (One Naughty Evening)?

He explained in an interview to Mirror:

“That is a matter of choice. Our play has adult material which, we think, is unpalatable for women. That’s why we do not wish to embarrass women, and also men. We were told by men to keep this a fun evening that they can enjoy. They claimed that they will not be able to laugh aloud at the sexy jokes if their wives were with them.”

It is shocking that he was asked whether women could not use the Indian Constitutional right to watch this play, when many women activists cry themselves hoarse over how women are portrayed. This is a closed group, and everyone knows that women too have their moments of fun. It has become quite the in thing in the metro cities for the ladies who lunch to invite a male stripper. The dynamics are changing, and although these are superficial indulgences there is no denying their usefulness as a form of social catharsis.It is beyond the male pattern Chippendales that advertises itself as :for ladies' entertainment'.

I remember watching a Dada Kondke film that was known for its rather crude humour in a small cinema hall. Curiosity about its filmmaker-actor was what prodded me. It was difficult to convince a friend to accompany me, to begin with. I was the only woman there and I could see that those sitting around me weren’t comfortable. We left mid-way.

The director, therefore, has a point when he says:

“If we had opened the play to everyone, and if some women had found it objectionable, our play would have been banned. We would have been labelled as porn-makers. Theatre-goers, who otherwise savour English sex comedies and Hindi bedroom farces, would have joined some women’s organisations, would have organised morchas against us. So, the marginal chance of doing well at the box-office would have been lost. We didn’t want that. And this tagline helped us put the play into perspective.”

This is way more honest than some ‘bold’ attempts at selling a film on the basis of making a feminist statement. Example being The Dirty Picture. Standard phrases like exploitation, empowerment, breaking the glass ceiling are used without understanding the import of these. Even the more offbeat feminist films and plays, without saying so, are indeed restrictive, in that they are catering to a female audience, have female sensibilities and make no attempt to market themselves for the consumption of men. A case in point being The Vagina Monologues, where the male, however aware and enlightened he might be, was a spectator. Unlike the woman as empathiser-observer.

This men’s only play has “two men talking about sexuality-related issues. A sexologist and a professor help a PhD student to analyze her subject: ‘Psychological, sociological and physical need of sexuality-related jokes and swear words’. It entails all those jokes that we chuckle over in private. We have just made those jokes public. What’s wrong in entertaining people? And we are not even involving people below 18. There is no malicious intent. I am a progressive director with a very broad openended view of sex and morality.”

That is the reason I find it intrusive that women would want to barge in. A female councillor after getting complaints – about what? That women could not attend a play they might find repugnant? – has muscled her way in and the shows will now have a new tagline welcoming the female audience.

I wonder if, as a matter of gender parity, they’d also use the men’s facilities.

(c) Farzana Versey


  1. After reading your article it seems like you would invariably support Gender segregation, which is so anti- woman to so many feminist in our country

  2. FV,

    1. The producers are well within their rights to restrict entry to only men or only women. The protests or preventive actions (I believe some theatres have denied them bookings) against it have no justification. When the film 'Bandit Queen' was released in 1995 or so, with explicit scenes and cuss words left intact by the courts, many theatres had organised 'women only' shows, to enable them to see the film without offensive assertions of chauvinist viewpoints by male audience. This is a similarly sensitive gesture towards a stereotypical Indian male whose mind is full of sexual complexes and conflicts. Most of them are pointless but nevertheless prevalent.

    2. Having said that, I deeply pity the men who say they cannot comfortably watch this play in company of women - even their wives! Small minds. Pun intended!

    3. Dada Kondke's Marathi films, with all their innuendo and prejudices were more honest than most others. At least the initial ones he made before he got trapped inside his own public image and popularity. Try and catch them on DVD, you will appreciate their delightully warm and rustic humour that goes beyond mere double meaning jokes (presuming you understand Marathi).

    4. I hope the producers of this play are able to throw it open to all viewers soon.

  3. FV,

    Another POV to chew on: How would we react if someone were to say, make a film and exhibit it with a tagline "For Hindus only"? Will our arguments remain the same?

    Of course, it would have to get past the objectively sekulaar CBFC first! :)

  4. F+F:

    Back to square One!

    Remember the Jhamela over Hey Raam and Jodha Akbar? Although they were not particularly debating over religion, but all the same. The release of Jodha Akbar took an eternity and left the film tattered and censored to pieces! This is a country that likes to quarrel over issues.

    I prefer self-censorship. Where I would judge whether to watch something or, not. It's extremely annoying to be toyed like minors by the Over-Ripened Guardians sitting in the censor board.

  5. Ridiculous to assume it appears that I support gender segregation. And, honestly, what so many feminists think or say.

    I've explained my reasons.

    I watched Dada Kondke out of curiosity. Marathi is my state language, so I speak it. Perhaps not as fluently as linguist jihadis might like.

    If self-censorship worked, blogs would not need to be moderated.

    Thanks for reading.


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